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Emotional Fortitude Series
The transition into adulthood begins when we first realize that our parents are humans, and not gods. The transition into adulthood is complete once we accept that our parents are humans, and not gods. Essentially, it is unfair to hold parents to standards of perfection. Doing so is proof that one still views them from a child-like perspective. Nevertheless, accepting that they made mistakes does not exonerate them. The scriptures state, ‘honor thy mother and thy father’ (Exodus 20:12). But, how does one honor what is not honorable? One does not.
See, I differ from most believers when it comes to enacting discipline upon a child. I am childless at the moment, but was on the receiving end of many rage filled beatings while growing up. A derivative of Proverbs 13:24 – “Spare the rod, spoil the child” was used to venerate such actions. Although, the Bible also says, “…thy rod and thy staff they comfort me” (Psalm 23:4). Now, there is nothing comforting about a beating. In fact, I believe that most parents do it simply because they are mad, and nothing else. This demonstrates lack of emotional fortitude and discipline on their end. How does a parent expect to give to their child what they themselves do not possess? The truth of the matter is that beating a child is wrath. And the Bible states that “the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (James 1:20).
The book of Proverbs is a book of wisdom. It champions the rod as a method of disciplinary action because discipline should be dealt wisely. Greek philosopher Plato exemplifies this in the following statement…
“Do not train a child to learn by force or harshness; but direct them to it by what amuses their minds, so that you may be better able to discover with accuracy the peculiar bent of the genius of each.”– Plato